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What Do Men Want?
By Taiwo Orimadegun

Published 19/12/09

What do men want

So Many women have been searching for these answers forever about “What men want? They’ve continue to asked from every angle, they’ve asked their women friends who are as clueless as she, and they end up turning to their man friends hoping to get an answer but still haven’t got a clue as to what men want. Because for one, what Mr. A want is quite different from what Mr. B desires.

Some believe men are confused about what they want, while a few school believes men are generally afraid of commitment. When I say commitment, we all view this very differently. Most women view a steady relationship as one that involves commitment, love, attention, romance, security, respect, trust friendship, family and friends, future, planning and loyalty. While men see this differently. Like lose of their priceless freedom. They want to enjoy themselves with different sexual partners throughout the rest of their lives. These are both choices, but it depends on the individual.

I posted a note on Facebook a while back and it generated lots of response from everyone. Here are a few excerpts from the note:

Bashorun Tope, an Entrepreneur lamented that Men do not even know what they want, they want to keep a girl but wont want to commit, unless the girl is pushy, they may eventually, leave her after so many time wasted. This days how many guys do you see that ask "will you marry me?" is either the lady got pregnant along the line or something led to another. All I know is that Men are not serious and don't want to even get married. Only few of them want to, most of them are just out there to waste your time. Men can challenge this if it’s a lie.

Jesse Adeniji countered that is Big LIE. That If your position is right, how come billions of men are married? I am married. What I got in my wife is a true friend, who fought me when she needed to and loved me irrespective. She didn't have to get pregnant for me either. SHE SAW THE POTENTIAL IN ME WAY BEFORE I BECAME THE REAL THING and I respect her for that. We have our ups and downs yet we go on. That’s love. Growing up, I noticed that girls do not give those who really loved them the chance to be with them. Probably down to surging hormones and disrespect for these guys because of pecuniary issues.
In my undergraduate years, I went after a girl I really loved; she told me I was infatuated. That experience made me do a rethink; do these guys want the truth? Today, she's divorced and suffered in an abusive situation.

I feel for her though. I am not saying she got into it because she wouldn’t check me out. Quite a lot of ladies look out for their knight in shining armour from Mills & Boon books or films, but I tell you, it doesn't always pan out like that…

Emeka Nwani a Journalist in Lagos chipped in that Men want wife materials and not just a girl who is not serious. Men want women who can bring out the best in them. While David Adeyemi a Civil Servant in Abuja also commented that men want peaceful, loving, caring, non nagging, respectable lady...lady who know how to keep the home, mature, that have respect for relationship etc..who will be there come rain, come sunshine. Temitope Amodu an Event Management Planner in Lagos said while I agree with Jesse, I would simply put our wants to be...Peace of Mind.

Seun Oloketuyi, a Publisher also commented that Men want good and genuine friendship, not desperados who all they want is money while Olusegun Sangowawa, a development worker opined that every man has his own strengths and his own issues and insecurities. Moreover, we go through different stages of life and relationships have different stages. What we want in a woman varies widely. But men want a woman who will make an effort to look her best and who will make an effort to please him, a woman who challenges him and who will be a true friend.
However, if we continue from now till tomorrow, we would go on and on. For me I believe what men want is not yet insight, but I do know that men want attention and love. This may surprise many women but men like to love and they like being loved in return. So women should continue to look for what is best for them in their relationship.





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