By Sabella Abidde |
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And then there is that tingly feeling, those sweat sensations; those moments when your heart misses its natural rhythm. Those times when you hold on to every word he says; moments when you look into his eyes and you think you can see and sense the recess of his soul. When you are in love, your ma smells nice, looks good, and tastes good all the time. He is perfect is all ways. In bed, there are very few dull moments; most of the times, he makes you feel the way no man has ever made you feel. Day after day, night after night, he seems unable to keep his gaze and his hands off of you. And neither can you. Virtually every sexual encounter leads to torrents of orgasms. You think of him nearly all your waking and sleeping moments. You are also convinced he thinks of you the way you think of him. Before you know it, you begin to think of the future -- a future that contains just the two of you, and perhaps, offspring. You want him and you want the feeling to last for eternity. You think of marriage. Marriage means different things to different people. And different people get marred for different reasons. Fundamentally, however, do you marry him because you love him or do you love him after you marry him? What is the basis of matrimony, anyway? This is the basic question that separates idealists and realists when it comes to love and marriage. Pragmatists will tell you love is overrated, insofar as marriage is concerned. In their view, marriage is too important an endeavor to be left to the vagaries and uncertainties of romantic love. They do not discount romantic-love. Love is good, love is important; but when it comes to marriage, realists would contend, love is not and should never be at the top of the reasons why people get married. The pragmatist
argument is predicated on a simple hypothesis: in a globalized
and modernizing world, romantic love does not pay the bills. In
their view, financial stability or the potential for financial
stability should be at the top of the pyramid when the decision
to or not to marry is being made. One could list a dozen or more reasons why people get married: good family and good reputation, similar milieu in terms of religion, ethnicity, and politics, kindness of the heart, ambition, personal rapport, mutual stupidity, etc,. But in fact, nothing compares to economic stability. A man could make you laugh, make you feel loved and wanted and needed and all that. In the end though, financial stability is what will keep the union going. The foreplay may last a life-time, still, you have to go on vacation, go on dinner date and all that. Bills have to be paid. Life, particularly in the west, is a lifetime of bills. Not a lifetime of love. A man without the ability to take care of the tabs will not be in the right frame of mind to take care of the little things he should take care of. If he cannot “take of financial business,” his ability to take of sexual and romantic business will be greatly hindered. He will not be a happy; and neither will his partner. As a “modern woman,” you may be financially independent. You may even be better paid. And yes, you may not need his pay check to have a good time and a good life. But really, how happy are you going to be carrying his bag, carrying his luggage? If he is not now making the big bucks, and has no potential of making the big bucks -- big buck as defined by the society you live in -- then you will be in for a rude shock: he is going to be a drag, a burden, an excess luggage. |
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