By Sabella Abidde |
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Aside from health
difficulties, there are issues surrounding children borne of such
association. The man may not be able to keep up with the children
as outdoor activities become a painful exercise. With such unions, there are other questions one ought to contemplate: when the man dies or become infirm, will there be enough money for the children’s education and will there be a sizeable inheritance? At the simplest level, will the aging husband be able to spend quality and memorable time with his pre-teen children? Long before age catches up, what about issues relating to generational gap? How does one bridge such gulf? In traditional and agrarian societies, such cleavages may not mean much; but in western and westernizing societies, the differences may be as conspicuous as night and day. At any rate, the speed at which a couple overcomes these differences may depend on the individual level of education, disposition, exposure, and worldview. As an old or aging man, if all you wanted is sexual pleasure, then be upfront about it. Don’t marry. Leave her to men of her generation. True, there are things about young maidens that drive a man wild and crazy. Their young minds and young bodies and young souls can and do drive men to the brink of insanity. In such moments, it is difficult to differentiate between love and consuming-lust and infatuation. Assuming it
is love then you must be careful not to take or play a fatherly
role. She is not looking for a daddy. In you she found a lover,
a husband, a partner. Something else; you cannot be overly jealous
or overly suspicious when she wants to go play with her age-mates.
Also, if your lover or wife is too young, he/she may become other
people’s object of desire and fantasy. Fornication and adultery
then becomes part of the equation. |
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